Divorce cases are often a sticky business. Not only does the couple involved have to worry about separating assets, but if there are children, they also have to work out a child custody arrangement that satisfies all parties. In most cases, this tends to take a bit of time to sort out. However, when all is said and done, everyone involved in the divorce proceedings is generally happy with the outcome.
. . . But things can change. Both adults involved in the divorce can move on and find new partners. While this is a normal part of life, it could potentially have a negative impact on the kids. If this is a situation you find yourself facing for example, how do you know for sure that your new partner or your ex’s new partner will be kind to your children? What can you do if you suspect that your partner or your ex’s new partner is neglecting your children?
In these situations, it’s possible to hire a private investigator to conduct a little surveillance to give you and your ex the peace of mind you deserve.
Child Custody & Divorce
In most divorce situations, when the divorcing couple has kids, they work out a child custody agreement. A child custody agreement outlines the “dos” and “don’ts” of how the divorced parents will move forward in parenting their children.
Child custody agreements also outline details surrounding the type of custody for each parent including,
- Who the children will spend time with and when
- The parent who will pay spousal support
- Holiday arrangements
- School arrangements
In more severe child custody cases, a judge will intervene and review the details of the divorce and each parent—individually. They can determine the type of child custody each parent will receive, and rules around what is expected of each parent. Once the child custody agreement is finalized, both parents must follow those rules and expectations moving forward. Following a child custody agreement is not only mandatory, it also gives the children involved a better sense of security and stability.
Moving Forward . . .
Let’s talk about what happens a few years down the road. Let’s say that you meet someone new, and you introduce him or her to your children. Or, let’s say that your ex meets someone new and they move in together. How do you know that this new person will treat your children with the same level of respect and care they require and deserve?
Unfortunately, if your ex feels that your new partner isn’t a good influence on your children, or you feel that your ex’s new partner is neglecting your kids, you could end up facing a child custody battle in court.
To prevent this from happening, you might want to consider hiring a private investigator to conduct surveillance on your new partner, or even on your ex’s new partner. Yes, it might sound a little extreme, however protecting your child from harm is one of the most important things you can do as a parent. It’s highly likely that you or your ex’s new partner is a great person, but why take any chances when a private investigator can give you the peace of mind you need?
What is Surveillance?
Surveillance is the act of watching a person as they go about their day. The most important element to surveillance is that the person the private investigator focuses on, does not know or realize that they are being watched. The moment someone knows or thinks they are being watched means that they will alter or change their behavior from what they would normally do. This is why it’s important to hire a professional.
Never, ever attempt to conduct surveillance on your ex’s new partner yourself. If you are not a trained private investigator, you could end up in a lot of trouble. Your ex might find out what you’re up to and the relationship you have with him or her could be damaged. They could be the ones to take you to court instead!
Surveillance & Hiring a Private Investigator – As a Parent
As a parent, you have every right to hire a private investigator to uncover hard evidence to prove that your ex’s new partner shouldn’t be allowed around your children. Here at the Smith Investigation Agency, we know and understand how important children are to parents. Our private investigators want to help you know the truth about your ex’s new partner, and the way in which we can do that is to set up surveillance.
Private investigators, or at least good licensed private investigators will conduct surveillance in a way that is so subtle; no one will even know they’re being watched. While some might think of surveillance as an invasion of privacy, it does help to receive an official report confirming that the new person in your family life is safe to have around your children.
If you’re not up to surveillance, you could also get a private investigator to run a background check on your new partner or your ex’s new partner. The background check will at least expose any previous run ins with the law, or with child services.
Surveillance & Hiring a Private Investigator – As a Lawyer
In some situations, two people just can’t get along well enough to make a decision on their own. They hire lawyers to handle the details of their child custody case to make sure that they get the best possible arrangement.
When another person is introduced into the mix, the child custody agreement might need to change. For example, there are situations where the new partner isn’t a great influence. Whether they love to party, or even worse, have a history of child abuse, it’s obvious that you wouldn’t want that person to have any contact with your children.
Therefore, if you or your ex just can’t break things off with a partner that does not seem like a good fit with your children, it is possible to involve lawyers in a court of law. Ultimately, the goal is to change the child custody arrangement so that either the new partner cannot have any contact with the child, or that the parent who refuses to break things off with the new partner will lose custody of the child.
In most cases, people are really very understanding and reasonable. When a new partner is introduced into a family, especially one with children, it’s normal to make sure that the new person isn’t hiding anything important. Hiring a private investigator to conduct surveillance provides a great deal of relief about this new person in your child’s life. After all, you always want to make sure your children are safe, whether they are with you, a family member or even your ex.